RELATIONSHIPS - THE "I'M SORRY" CURE
The most powerful words in the English language which restore peace are, "I'm sorry," and "Forgive me." Bad attitudes toward you fall to the ground and die when you are able to ask for forgiveness from someone you offended or when you apologize for something that you did or apologize for something that someone perceives that you did.
You have experienced seeing relief in a person when you have apologized for causing problems in his or her life. Peace is restored between the two of you and My kingdom is restored into your lives. (Matthew 5;21-25) I said that if you are angry with your brother that you are in danger of the devil's judgment in the matter, and his judgment is always destruction of some area of your life. Jesus was revealing a powerful key to My kingdom, My family blessings, when He taught that truth. In fact, if you will notice He did not say that you make peace with your brother if you are wrong in the matter and he or she is right. He said to make peace with him, anyway, whether you are right or wrong.
When you are right in a situation and need to apologize to restore peace with someone, it is hard for our fleshly man to admit to a wrong which it did not do. When you can do that, you suffer in the flesh just like Jesus did when he suffered for your sins. You take upon yourself the person's wrongness in the situation, just like Jesus did for your sins. That is what is means to suffer like Jesus did. He knew He had not sinned, yet he suffered on the cross for the sins of the world. So when you restore peace with someone for something they did to you, you are doing what Jesus did, you take on the wrongdoing of the other person, forgiving the person in an effort to restore peace between you so that My blessings can flow in your lives.
Being right or wrong is a situation is of no importance to My children. You are on a level playing field in My family because you have all been forgiven of all of your mistakes, so all of you are innocent in every situation. What is important is restoring peace between you so that your prayers can be answered. That is what Jesus meant when He said that it rains on the just and the unjust. Forgiveness from Me falls on the just and unjust because Jesus died for the sins of the whole world. (John 3:16-17) All people have sinned and fallen short of My glory, so all men are forgiven. (Romans 3:23)The people who make peace with others in a disagreement are the ones who are truly My children, the peacekeepers. When the peacekeepers do their job and make peace with others, the windows of heaven are opened and My blessings flow like rivers into their lives.(Matthew 5:9)
REMEMBER THIS: Being right or wrong in a situation is of no importance. Being the peacemaker in situations is what is important to Me because when you make peace with someone you restore My kingdom in your lives, allowing me to pour My blessings upon the just and the unjust in the situation. You are doing what Jesus did, dying to your fleshly desires for justification of being right in your own eyes and the eyes of others, and you are willing to bear the sins of others. When you do that, you are fulfilling the laws of Christ.
There are times when an apology is unnecessary but that doing an act of kindness will do the same thing. It will restore peace to your relationship. Very often, a gift, a kind word of encouragement, a card or letter letting a person know that he or she is important to your life, all of those will restore the unity of spirit and peace between you. (Romans 10:19-21) Peace and unity is of utmost importance to Me, not who is right or wrong.
Strive to enter into the narrow gate by following the teachings of Jesus with the power of My Spirit. Become righteous instead of striving to be right.
Your Righteous Father